Friend is That Guy

If you’re worried about a friend or loved one, the best thing you can do for them is to take action right away.

How do I know if my friend or family member needs help or if they are That Guy?

Here are some important alcohol warning signs to watch for:

Keep reading to get the facts and learn more about how you can help.

Taking Action: A How-To Guide

Talking to a friend or family member about his drinking is not easy, but it’s the right thing to do. Here’s some advice:

Step 1:  Prepare

Get educated about the serious risks and consequences of binge drinking. Review this Web site and others for more information. Think carefully about your concerns and what you want to say.  Be prepared to offer specific examples of how his/her drinking has affected you or your family, the person’s career or health. Practice the conversation in advance. It will help you stay focused and anticipate issues that might come up. You should also gather information and be prepared to offer help.

Step 2:  Have the Conversation

Now here’s the hard part. Sometimes it helps to have the conversation shortly after an alcohol-related problem has occurred, such as an argument or trouble at work. Make sure the person is sober so everyone can stay calm. Focus on how the person’s drinking has caused problems for both of you, whether it is affecting job performance, creating stress at home or causing legal trouble. Give an example of when this person has become That Guy. Be supportive. Tell him/her what you want him/her to do, whether it’s cutting down on binge drinking or entering a treatment program. Be loving and kind. Stay calm and remain supportive even if he gets defensive.

Tell your friend:

Step 3:  Get Support

If appropriate, you may want to involve trusted friends or other family members. You can also consult with your health care provider, a professional counselor, chaplain or a support group to gather information and advice. 

Step 4:   Seek Help

It’s important for the person to see a health care provider or other professional to evaluate the seriousness of the problem. In some cases, he/she may just need to cut back on drinking.  In others, counseling or treatment may be needed. For more information on finding a treatment center near you, [click here].

Tips for Cutting Back

If the person needs to cut down on drinking, you can support him/her by providing healthy alternatives and by working together to practice moderation.

You should also share these important tips to help them cut back: